Something About Love

So, I learned that I have been in love before.

Lol!

Not that I didn’t know, I just happened to be in the midst of people who were talking about love and I dove in. It was a cool moment.

I think at the end we were proving to someone that he had never been in love. Isn’t that just crazy?

We talked about a lot of things and we all agreed that

we (humans) often confuse sex and lust for love and it’s sad. Sometimes, all of these make up the package. The “relationship” package.

P.S: this is referring to the dating and courtship relationship not marriage.  

Basically, there are so many ways to know if one is in love or lust. Lust is physical but love isn’t just physical. It is practically inexplicable. When one’s feelings are completely physical, then it is lust.  

Someone told me “lust precedes love”. I agree that we are first attracted before we start to have feelings that can lead to love but, I don’t think that is qualified as lust. It is physical attraction not lust.

Lust is defined as a strong sexual desire. It is completely different from Physical attraction. So, we can rightly say “Attraction precedes love”… now, that makes a whole lot of sense.

Love, we all agreed was beyond caring. It is being satisfied knowing that the person you love is satisfied. It is being happy knowing the person you love is happy and so on. It is placing that person’s feelings, emotions and well-being above yours.

Yeap!

So, I have been in love before.

Why am I blushing right now?

Oh Jeez!

I think I am blushing because it is exciting to have experienced those kind of feelings. It really is.

It was so crazy that even though I knew this person was cheating, I could only think about how to make him happy. That is so intense isn’t it?

Yeah! Love is intense.

So, it didn’t work out with that person and funny enough, when people asked about what was going on back then, I couldn’t tell because I didn’t want to give him a bad name or make others see him differently. Love is crazy! Honestly, I don’t think we fall out of love once we fall in love.

A little digression: Just don’t fall in love. Walk into it with your two legs but don’t fall! Because anything that has to do with a fall is negative. *RME* okay! This is me just being annoying… LOL!

Time don’t heal nothing! We just learn to live with the hurt and pain. #word

Back to what I was saying, I was in love and I can say it was unconditional because I basically accepted this person from A-Z, flaws and all.

You know, we humans have this void that remains unfilled. We then think we need the love of another person to fill this void but, the love we need to fill the void is the unconditional and indisputable yet overwhelming love of our creator.

That is the ultimate! And once you have a sweet personal relationship with your creator, you will love flawlessly. When both parties have that intimacy with their creator, boom!

You see, the most common mistake we make in love is not looking for love in the right place. So, when we think we have found it, because we don’t understand love or have found it in the not-so-right place, it can go wrong, slip away or just not work out.

Let me take you back to when I said Love and Sex are two different things… they are! People say you can’t have love without sex but that’s bullshit!

No! I won’t apologize for that. In fact, I will repeat it. Saying there can’t be love without sex is bullshit! Complete B.S!

Love is beautiful! I am a confirmed lovaholic and I don’t care what nobody says! (That sounds like someone I Know) hehehehe!

I really don’t care! Love is sweet; love exists! You might be looking for love and almost giving up… don’t! There is someone out there looking for you! Hold tight until he/she finds you.

And yes! You can find love without sex.

I do understand when people say they just want someone who is ready to settle down to appear and then they can take it to the altar.

I understand! 

I know the feeling and even have it sometimes. However! I don’t want to settle. I want to let love be the foundation for the altar. 

When there is genuine love and the challenges start to surface, you’ll remember the Love and those beautiful moments that got you that far, then fight to keep it because: You were not misguided by fleshy lust and mere physical attraction but emotional, mental, intellectual and non-physical attraction.

I am not saying ignore physical attraction, I am just saying… don’t dwell completely on the physical attraction and ignore every other thing.

Also, the question “what are we doing” should come before anything else.

Define it! Before you start it, not when it is falling apart.

Anyways, I do hope that whoever reads this gets to experience love in its raw and undiluted form. It is beautiful!

Thanks for stopping by…

With Love

Rita_R