TRUST

 Let us take a moment to talk about TRUST.

Hmm!

I know what some of you are thinking already but, its not that.

I just remembered my encounter with a certain human.

This person and I met some years back and we were working on becoming friends at that time and something happened.

Before “something happened", I was doubtful about a couple of things.

Firstly, I knew he wanted more than friendship and I didn’t want anything more than that.

Secondly, if I wanted “more”, he wasn’t it.

Thirdly, I didn’t like him at all but, I don’t like to “judge a book by its cover” so, I was ready to get to know this person.

By the way, his name is Smith. Sorry Smith!

Now, what happened?

Like I initially stated, Smith and I were just getting acquainted with each other at the time. But on a very good day, with a very good friend, I, in a very good mood, decided to go see a movie.

While at the movies, smith texted (after I ignored a call from him) asking where I was. I replied his text telling him my location and with whom I was. It seemed logical at that time because I ignored his call. After telling him where I was, smith asked to see a picture. Now, I normally will not even send a picture of me to anyone; not even a boyfriend but, I didn’t mind sending him a picture. However, the kind of picture he requested ached my bones. He requested a picture of me with the person I was with. And I’m like ‘whoa!” two things.

1.       He either didn’t believe I was where I said I was or

2.       With  whom I said I was.

Guess what I did.

I sent him the picture! Not because I would on a normal day but, because I knew he was really insecure.

Nothing ticks me off like an insecure man. So I don’t think I have to mention that smith and I didn’t start anything at all after that incident. Like duh! what could we have started?

 I can’t teach a man to be secure and come on! If you are like that before it even starts, what will you be like when it starts? I mean…. 

I am not saying every woman or man is trustworthy but, take your time to study a person before you push someone far away with unnecessary suspicion and insecurities.

Where two mature people are building a relationship, there might me others involved at first. It will then be left to those two to talk about it like “okay, this is what I want, if we want the same thing, then let us let go of every other person and be exclusive”. 

It doesn’t always happen that way anyway. Sometimes, the existence of other people might just be on one side but, that talk is very necessary. Those people will still be there until the talk. sometimes, they continuously hang around even after the talk, then one can think of a different strategy.

There are times in a relationship that I don’t want to have that talk. But, in every relationship where I don’t have that talk, that relationship dies before it starts to prepare a breathing space. 

That “what are we doing” talk is very necessary. Its necessity cannot be over-exaggerated. Especially if you really like that person, and you think there could be something there.

*whispers* there are times I don’t have that talk because I know that the person concerned and I, cannot have anything serious. Just saying!

Anyway, back to the original matter.

In every relationship, one vital element is “trust”.

Honay! If trust isn’t there, run for your life!

No kidding!

That’s simply because no matter how true, honest and sincere you are with someone who doesn't trust you, it won’t count! Because to that person, you will never be trust worthy. But get this; it is not you, it is that person.

Now, if you are that person who doesn't trust the other, work on yourself and put your insecurities away. 

I’ll tell you about someone I once dated who had lots of insecurities, and it turned out to be the worst relationship I had ever been in. However, that won’t be today.

*winks*

I’m also working on something for all singles…. Hi single ladies and single men!

Not today either.

Giggles!

The importance of trust in every relationship cannot be over-rated.

It might not seem relevant but it is the most important tool for building a successful relationship.

I hope your significant other trusts you enough. If not, you both better work on it now!

Better late than never!

I wish you all the best.

Till you read another post from me, I remain yours truly.

With love,

Rita-R